Every month I’m going to write an article to start a conversation and I would love for you to take part, so please send me emails and videos of what you think, feel and your experiences.
We all have different opinions and that’s because we all have different thought processes. We can all be right or wrong as well but until you have a discussion and hear other people’s opinions, how will you know and how can you change your mind.
I’m kicking off ‘Lets Have a Conversation’ with the menopause as I’ve been going through it since I was 49, not realising my hormone levels probably started dropping at 40, which explains why my confidence, anxiety and energy levels started dropping too.
It was at a time when GP’s were advising women not to take hormone medication as scientists discovered a percentage of women would be susceptible to cancers if they took hormones, which was very scary to hear.
However I did my research and decided that it was right for me to go on hormones as soon as I got my first night sweat and I forgot how to reverse the car into a parking space (though maybe i shouldn’t blame everything on being menopausal !!)
Did you know that women actually spend a third of their lives in perimenopause not realising that their anxiety and low self esteem comes from the symptoms of being perimenopausal.
It’s only recently that women have started to discuss going through the menopause openly and it really helps that lots of celebrities going through the same have started talking about this in the press, taking away some of the stigma.
From the first period I had there was always a sense of shame about bleeding then all of a sudden the tables are turned and I know I will feel a sense of shame for not bleeding when they finally stop!
What’s that all about?
The perimenopause can kick in at 40, or even as early as 30 and the drop in hormone levels can really affect a woman’s perception of herself.
For some of us there is a feeling of being past ones sell by date, no longer ripe with fertility, becoming invisible to the opposite sex and finally resigning yourself to never feeling sexy, spontaneous and desirable again.
I have been wracked with these feelings but in my heart I know it’s not true and I’m going to fight my way to the other side.
Yes I know a lot of you reading this won’t feel that way, but believe me there are a lot of women that do and they need our friendship and support.
We need to discuss our feelings more as hormones are so powerful that losing them can send women into a spiral of despair that can affect mental health, quality of life and relationships with partners and family and sometimes all that’s needed is just to talk and to get some advice and support from family and friends as well as the Doctors. Just because nature decided this is the way it is going to be for women doesn’t mean we have to accept it and quietly resign ourselves to years of brain fog, sweats, anxiety and fatigue. We all need to keep pushing the medical profession to find new ways of tackling the side effects of loss of hormones.
To all the mums out there start discussing the menopause with your daughters as soon as they get their first periods, give them a timeline of what the stages are and gently get them ready in mind and body for the inevitable to happen and teach them to believe that they are entitled to and can live a gloriously happy life through every womb change in their lives.